… for grown-ups to tell each other what they need?
I’m not talking about task work – not “Have this report on my desk by tomorrow morning,” or “Will you please take out the trash,” or “I need you to watch the kids Saturday while I go grocery shopping.”
I’m talking about things like telling your boss you’re not happy with the type of work you’re doing, or telling your partner that you’re upset about something and need some support. Telling a friend it bothers you that the only time they call is to complain about someone else. Things like that.
Kids don’t have any trouble telling us what they need. Tonight, the four of us were playing in the pool, and I guess Tim and I were paying too much attention to Little Sister. “Why isn’t anybody paying any attention to me,” Book Boy said. Let us know just what he needed.
“I’m scared, will you hold me?”
“I’m itchy – I need someone to scratch my back.”
You get the picture. Why can’t adults do that so easily – at least when it really matters?