It amazes me sometimes how different people can give me “constructive criticism,” and my reaction to each person can be very different based on how they told me. Were they accusatory? Friendly? Accepting of part of the blame? Demanding? Etc.
Ever since we lost 1/3 of our team in the “reduction in force” (i.e. layoffs) last month, I’ve been a little ball o’ stress every afternoon. This stems from the new tasks that I’ve assumed, which involve two afternoon deadlines and very late-in-the-day corrections/approvals. (Coupled with the fact that I either need to leave at 5 or ask Tim before then to pick up the kids, I’m a mess.)
I’m also working more closely with several people. I’ve known these particular people for a long time, but have never really worked directly with them much. But I’m finding that they’re much harder to work with than I expected. I’m spoiled, I admit – my boss and my other long-term co-worker (we’ve all worked closely for 7 years) have never butted heads or had any sort of conflict. We just work together that well. But these other people, boy, they can be much more abrasive than I’m used to. Especially when things aren’t going well or when I do something wrong (even if well-intentioned). And yet these are people that I really like otherwise!
Hmm, I guess that’s all I have to say about it tonight (though Tim might say that’s not true.)
Anyone else find that you react differently to “feedback” from different people? How do you handle it when someone’s delivery is just not great? Do you feel like you’re a big baby (like I do) when you don’t react well?