Yesterday, I invited you to ask me questions to help jump-start my blog with some good topics. Only two of you have done so, but boy did those two ask questions! (Anyone else who has a question is welcome to ask it in the comments here or in the previous post.)
Here’s the first question, from Jen over at The Road Less Traveled:
“So…. tell me how you feel about having three kids. Easier? Harder? About the same?”
That’s actually kind of a hard question for me to answer. I went from being a working mother of two one day to a being an unemployed stay-at-home-mom (however temporarily it may be) with a baby on the way the next day.
So, everything has changed. Not just the number of kids, but what I do all day has changed. The balance of responsibility for chores, etc. at home has changed. What the kids do has changed.
Having three kid is definitely harder than two, at least now when the littlest is in the needy infant stage. It feels like there’s always someone who needs me. Mom, I’m hungry. Mom, I need help in the bathroom. Waaaahwaaaahwaaah! Book Boy and Book Girl have had to become a little more independent, and I’ve had to get better at juggling the kids’ needs. One thing I’ve found that helps is to tell the baby that she has to wait for the big kids sometimes. “Just a minute, Book Baby, I’m helping BG with (whatever), then I’ll be right in to get you.” It helps keep the older ones from feeling pushed aside by the baby when they realize that oh yeah, everyone has to wait sometimes.
I will say that as much as a challenge as it can be, as hard as it sometimes is to have very little adult contact, I really like staying home with the kids. I know it won’t last forever – surely I’ll be employed before the year is out – but I’m glad that Book Boy and Book Girl will be able to look back on their childhood and remember me being home with them after school, remember a summer or two that they spent playing in the yard or at the park, etc.